How to Penned a Memoir That Will Make People Care?

Are you considering writing a memoir but unsure how to do it or even if you should? Do not be concerned. You do not have to be well-known or notorious to write a memoir that attracts an audience and communicates life-changing facts. Simply said, you must be willing. The remainder is all techniques—which we can assist you with.

Let’s begin by addressing the fundamentals, and then we’ll get into specific strategies for crafting an unforgettable memoir.

Memoir vs. Autobiography


It is typically centered on a single memory, or sometimes a succession of recollections. It is rarely, if ever, all-inclusive. It is centered on a pivotal occurrence that alters the trajectory of the protagonist’s life. It is strongly themed, with often only one subject. This is frequently the moral, i.e., the lesson learned.


It chronicles one’s whole life, beginning with the birth. Typically, autobiographies juggle many topics. There is not a single lesson learned, but several. Although they are typically associated with celebrities, anybody may write one and have it be a hit.

A great autobiography requires an extraordinary life, but a memoir might be about an average experience presented with remarkable insight.

Nothing in your memoir is entirely about you…

Indeed, it is not. Rather than that, your memoir should focus on a lesson you have learned and can impart to others. Individuals will become tired of hearing about you. It is the literary equivalent of dating someone who drones on and on about themself. Instead, people read your tale to discover universal truths that might help them make sense of their own life. Consider the primary takeaways from your tale.

Indeed, before you begin writing your book, jot down the lessons you have gained from the experience. A few bullet points will suffice. Then fill it out, and do not look at it again until you have written your memoir’s first draft. Now examine what you have written and determine whether the lessons you have learned are portrayed effectively in your memoir.

If not, make the necessary changes.

However, avoid ramming your points down the reader’s throat. Constantly err on the side of delicacy. Rather than a loudspeaker, your takeaway should be a soft whisper in the breeze.

Select a specific occasion.

As previously mentioned, memoirs are not a collection of interconnected stories that comprise your whole life. Rather than that, a memoir focuses on a single incident.

How will you feel about the event?

I understand how complicated it might be to select just one experience from your life. Isolate the five or six most significant events in your life thus far. Which one has the best chance of telling an engaging story?

You may not have an answer until you begin writing. I propose writing about each of these occurrences in two to three paragraphs. Whichever one you find the most difficult to put down on paper is the writer.

Beginning at the end.

Are you itching to write but unsure how to begin?

Some memoirists find it beneficial to begin writing toward the conclusion. For instance, you are currently employed in your ideal job (end of story). How did you arrive? Or, if you have ultimately overcome your ultimate hurdle (the conclusion), what sparked this journey in the first place?

Select a center of interest.

What is the moral of the story you have chosen to write about in your memoir? What lesson did you gain from living this chapter of your life? Perhaps you have discovered:

  • Never compare yourself to others.

  • Your intuition may be able to save your life.

  • Always try to be pleasant.

  • It is never too late to pursue your ambitions.

  • You are the maker of your own fate.

And so forth.

What lesson stands out to you when you consider a significant incident in your life? While you may be lamenting an action you did not take, the narrative is in what you did do and what you did not know as a result of time passing.

Identify your target audience.

Not everyone will appreciate or be drawn to your memoir, and that is perfectly fine. You are not attempting to reach every individual on the planet; rather, you are attempting to reach those who need to learn or be inspired by your narrative.

Write as though you were speaking directly to that intended audience.

Be honest.

Vanity may be the death of your memoir. In a futile attempt to improve your appearance, you may be tempted to discuss events that never occurred. That is, penning clever retorts to things you wish you had said at the time (but didn’t).

Avoid doing so.

Your narrative is beautiful in its raw and emotional candor. It is okay to be human. Indeed, it is necessary while writing a memoir. By complicating or embellishing the facts, you deceive the reader.

Plus, they are probably already aware that you are lying—and that is when you will lose them.

Abide by fiction’s rules.

Begin in the middle of the action, not at the start. Avoid dull demographic details such as your age or gender; they will become apparent as the tale progresses.

Utilize flashbacks.

This is the section in which you provide important information to your reader. Your memoir does not have to be a chronological retelling.

Demonstrate, do not tell.

Utilize descriptive language to help you create an environment for your memoir. Make no conclusions yourself; instead, create the stage for the reader to do so.

Create characters with true-to-life.

Your secondary characters should be realistic; they should not be entirely good or evil.

It should be read aloud.

Your text should have a natural flow. Hearing the words enables you to detect sentence structures that are not natural.

When you write about other individuals, you risk being sued. It’s inconvenient, but it’s preferable to be safe than sorry.

If you are going to write about someone who might not agree with what you are saying, it is typically a good idea to alter the person’s name and other identifying traits. You may even need to update the location and a few other identifying details, such as your employment place. Another possibility is to write anonymously.

However, if someone is hell-bent on suing you, this may not be sufficient protection. What will safeguard you is obtaining general release forms from all of the persons you describe in the book. Additionally, notarize it.

About the Author

Rhonda Ann Colia is the youngest of four children. She is happily married to the man of her dreams and has grown children, a daughter, and two stepchildren living their own lives. She grew up helping her mom load the spray rig with water and chemical mixes so her mom could spray the crops of grateful farmers. Rhonda continues pursuing her writing career and is looking forward to publishing her first novel of three.

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